I’ve had two or three people call me ‘chinky’ in a negative way, but all the other racial slurs I’ve experienced were meant light heartedly.
If it’s meant as a joke, I would, shrug it off and say something about them or go along with what they’ve said and amplify it. If it’s said nastily I would go on about how racism is ridiculous etc etc.
At the end of the day, if you don’t like what’s being said to you, regardless of what way it’s said in, you should say what you want to say and not be ashamed of that.
I think the reason why the phrase “I’m not like most girls” annoys me so much is because women have been conditioned to feel like they have to disassociate themselves from the female gender to be recognised as an interesting human being and if that isn’t fucked up then I don’t know what is